GRIEF

Today, I want to speak about grief. 

Grief is different things to different people
Grief doesn't have the same look for everyone as you think it should.

When you meet someone who's grieving, don't tell them" God understands or it's God's will" they don't need to hear that.
What they need is for you to be there, you can sit quietly and just be there physically OR you can be there mentally for them whenever they want to vent, but by all means be there.

Not everyone has found a healthy way to deal with their grief so, be kind. People are grieving for one thing or the other daily. You're not the "grief police" who tells people how to grief OR how long their grieving should be OR what steps their grieving process should follow (take it down a notch! 😒).

It's not an easy process, grieving... I don't think it's one that ends because you have this love that you want to give to these people, but you cannot give it to them anymore and it just sort of pours out. The days when that love you have for that person pours out are more difficult than other days, what you can do for you is to stay in it, absorb it and feel it, don't toss it to the side or run from it, it's healthy to embrace it, because it'll pass and when it comes around again, you repeat the process.

I don't believe that time heals pain, I believe that it only makes it bearable,  like how instead of crying everytime you speak or think about them, you laugh at the memories you've had and you sort of have conversations where you remember how that person would've reacted.

If you have a healthy outlet, just use that as a tool to cope. Pain and suffering are an integral part of life just as happiness and joy are. We only hope that when those days come, we don't forget what truly matters.

Love everyone, be kind to everyone. And let them know! Let them know you love them, that you miss them and that you're thinking about them because, death is sure for everyone.

In all, remember that,  grief isn't a destination,  it's a journey.

Love always,

Princess❤

P.S- I am not a licensed psychologist, and as such, I cannot say that I have data on the above mentioned subject. I'm just a human who has an opinion on grief. Thank you