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It was hard to come to terms with the fact that I fell in love with my thoughts of him more than I did him, and now that I am here, I'm unsure how to navigate the situation. The sheer humour of God! I mean, a Pastor?! Common! What about me screams Pastor's wife? If anything, every single thing about me screams Get away from me! And now you want me to accept that you are calling me to be a pastor's wife? Naaaaa. So people who don't know me can place me on a pedestal and laugh very hard when they watch me fall?  Thanks, but no thanks. I remember the first day I met him; I was going home from a book club meeting that ran a little late with the heated discussions. I mistook his car for my ride, opened it and entered, and the first words from my mouth were, "You can start the trip". Lol, this is pure high-level madness because who doesn't check the plate number or the face of their driver?! Especially in times like this. But that is my POV; he, on the other han...

Have you ever done something and thought, "Oh shoot! I did it again!" I said I wasn't going to, but I did. Has that ever happened to you? Well, its happened to me again and again, and every time, I truly think that it would be the last time because I know better and I can do it- or at least I should, right? The reason why one cannot do it is because what your actions portray is the state of your heart! Plants only show what has been buried in the soil (the seed). Once this was revealed to me, it absolutely made sense, and I realized that, instead of trying to do all “The good things,” why not focus on having the heart fixed? Whatever we plant, whether it's negativity, self-doubt, or self-sabotage, or positivity, hope, and love, will inevitably sprout. It all depends on the condition of our hearts. I had an aha moment when I realized that rather than constantly striving to do "the right things," it makes more sense to focus on fixing our hearts. Instead of ba...

When the question, who are you? is asked, what is your gut response? What comes first for you? Well, recently, I was seeing a movie, and what I realized is your identity is who you really are when all things are stripped away.  So take away my law degree, the fact that I'm a daughter, a sister, a friend, a podcaster, a writer, take all that away, and Who am I? You see, I have realized that in the bid to do what we think is necessary, we often forget who we really are!  What have you allowed define you? Why do disappointments devastate you so much that it is hard to see any other thing through that hazy cloud? A change of perspective only occurs when you find your identity in the one who created you. Remember when Mufasa was telling Simba -"Remember who you are?" That seemed ominous, but it really was what Simba needed, and when he actually internalized that statement, he saved the Pride Land! Well, this is me telling you to "Remember Whose you are" This will hel...

Today, I am sharing from a place of fear. I know that it is easy to think, "You've got this!" and "God's got you!" but that doesn't make me less scared.  I am crippled by the fear that life is moving so fast, and it seems like I have not started fulfilling those big dreams yet! Don't get me wrong, I am really grateful for where I am right now because God's been and still is the best, but it does not absolve me of that fear; what it does is- it gives me the peace to sit in this fear, remind myself of whose I am and why I do not need to be scared. Besides, just look how far He has brought me. This knowledge lets me wallow on the brink of tears with the whispers of reminders that say, If he couldn't fail, I can't either.  And then, I remember the scripture from Daniel that says, "Those who know their God WILL do exploits!" Notice it doesn't say "may," "shall," or "might"; it unequivocally declares...

Like intertwined souls, love and death dance a delicate tango, each step revealing the profound mysteries that bind us to the cosmos Amid the walls of New Shire Asylum, a realm of intriguing minds and the allure of the unordinary, I stand as a living paradox—a killer who once fell madly in love, only to witness it slip through my grasp like fine sand. My origins trace back to the vibrant land of Nigeria, where life forged me into the enigmatic being I am today. A place of rich culture and vibrant colors, Nigeria nurtured my intelligence and nurtured my peculiar fascinations. It was on a beautiful rainy day in the captivating city of Abuja that fate collided with destiny. There, I beheld Yvonne, a masterpiece of divine craftsmanship, a beauty that left me spellbound. This was no ordinary "pretty girl" but a living work of art that drew me into her gravitational pull. Summer was upon us, a time of metamorphosis, and I sought refuge in the embrace of Nigeria, driven by a health ...

I used to believe that change was something that only happened to other people, not to me, in that it would happen but not so drastically (as if!). I thought that I could control how those around me evolved and that their changes would always align with my own desires (lol, I'm sure life looked at me and had a good laugh 😅). However, life has taught me otherwise. I now realize that change is inevitable and that I cannot always dictate its direction or pace. As my friends and I have grown and developed, our lives have naturally diverged- for the most part. While we may have become friends because of the similarities we shared at the time, we are no longer the same people we once were. And that's okay. We are each on our own unique journeys, and sometimes those paths lead in different directions. I have come to appreciate the friendships that have endured through these changes, and I recognize that even when things do shift (because they will), it doesn't necessarily mean th...

How’s that for the title of a biography or an autobiography? I heard that in a movie, and I wondered how cool it’d sound in a literary piece? How many times have we made bad decisions and or choices and used this exact phrase?! And you know, at those times, everything sucks, but you know, totally in a normal way. In our journey through life, we often stumble upon moments where we utter the words, "This was a mistake." It's a phrase that resonates with everyone! highlighting our shared experiences of making choices that don't turn out as planned. But what if we could shift our perspective and see the beauty in these mistakes and the normality of everyday life? What if we decided to explore the power of embracing imperfection and finding joy in the ordinary. On Embracing Imperfection Picture this: you're standing in front of a mirror, but instead of cringing at what you consider your distorted reflection, you burst into laughter. That's the spirit! We'll del...

I've been meaning to write a piece, and I have over 5 drafts, but somehow, it never seems ready enough, so I decided to do this. It is one that is done by a lot of bloggers, and I think that it is an ingenious idea. So... Currently, I am... Wearing : A playsuit, feeling sickly and wishing for an out-of-body experience to make this headache cease!, and all the while wishing I was on an adventure at Hogwarts. Unfortunately, instead of being a member of Gryffindor (Gryffindor because the test I took said so), I am here in Nigeria. Alternatively, I could have been at the temple of the ancient Greek gods in Greece, living my best life and seeing all the fiction come to life, but again... Freaking Capitalists! Admiring : This really cute bottle of Four Cousins on the wine bar and wondering if my sister would be mad if I drank it without her. Wishing : To keep making an impact while traveling the world and seeing the masterpiece that is this earth. Possibly some kind of orbital tour, too,...

Recently, a friend asked me how I was doing, and for some reason, I froze. I never freeze when it comes to answering that question, but this time, I did. After a minute of awkward silence, I thought about what to say. Should I be honest and tell them how I truly feel, or should I just give a generic answer and move on? I chose the latter😏, and we talked briefly before my friend asked again, "How are you, really?" At that point, lying would be a complete disregard for our friendship, so I told them exactly how I felt. These were my exact words;  I am tired and exhausted; sometimes, I just want to stay in bed and be left alone. Other times, I feel like I could fly and soar. I've been in a weird space lately, but things are getting better. I'm trusting God more, praying, crying, and doing everything except bottling it all up inside. I love watching my old videos because they bring me happiness. Capturing those moments always makes me feel better. These days, getting out...

Cashmerlot 1923 In a time of hustles & bustles for the rare specie- CASH, the hope of the average citizen rests in the hands of a young lady, her name- NEW NOTE!  She was the fairest of all maidens, far preferred than her counterparts- Transfers, POS, and ATMs. It was said that the sight of her made even the hardest of hearts go warm with fondness and a joy so rare that only true love could compare. The issue? She was kept in a tower far above the reach of the common man, and only the firstborn hires of the royal family had access to her.  The common people of Cashmerlot depended solely on their literary prowess and ingenuity for successful transactions. They said; Cash is like a rare species in the wild, seen only a few times a year and never in large quantities. Trying to find it in your wallet is like going on a safari, but instead of a majestic elephant, you find lint and a single kobo. The only time you seem to have enough is when you don't need it, and when you do, i...

If you are one of those people (like me) who watch a lot of NatGeoWild, you will find that there is always a lesson hidden in plain sight. Do you ever see how eagles push their eaglets from their nests to force them to fly? Have you ever imagined what would become of these eaglets if they were "pampered"? The simple answer is that the growth would never come because, while comfort is not bad, complacency, on the other hand, is! There are pangs and pains that come from growth and the process it takes to become all you are capable of being, but when you desire and/or intend to cut out that pain/pang, you end up being half-baked, unprepared and completely incapable of handling what faces you, which then results in you having  to still go through that painful process.  It's still quite early in the year, so this is the best time to have this out there. A great life is a possibility, a blessed life is a possibility, and possibilities are in the realm of God.  For every product...